August was settling in and I was sitting at my favorite terrace. My friend was lounged across, with a 10 RON rosé in one hand and a Cartesian sense of morality in the other.
“Changing your mind isn’t glamorous”
A feeling of distaste takes over. Not glamorous?! I can’t shake off the idea. Both titillating and unpleasant: perhaps changing my mind can be glamorous (if not sliced too thickly).
THERE IS PRESTIGE AROUND BEING FAITHFUL TO YOUR IDEAS+DESIRES.
Nowadays sticking to your guns is seen with respect. Someone who stands firm in their ideals and wants. Whereas changing our minds is seen as lacking in character — weakness. It’s seen as shameful or embarrassing.
But really, our minds are fragile and constantly evolving and exposed to infinite experiences. It’s really unlikely that someone steadfast in their desires and beliefs is authentic in doing so (a bit wary if you ask me). This whole prestige has been added around having a “continuous identity”. Let me explain: a “continuous identity” implies an unwavering personality.
But, I think it’s wiser to be someone that changes their minds constantly in this world (yes you caught me, I AM one of them) because that implies a mind susceptible to change, capable to alter. I think changing our minds should be something attractive. A strict personality is a stubborn mind.
DASEIN IS BEING IN THE WORLD
Let me be so crass as to even say: if changing our minds would be publicly promoted as something alluring and charming (ok, ok, I mean positive), instead of blind faith to fixed ideas and identities, then maybe our world would be more tolerant, politically correct and calm. Maybe we’d have healthier relationships because we’d feel more comfortable to change and adapt instead of being stubborn and faithful to an illusionistic identity. Maybe we’d be more comfortable with our sexual identities instead of abstaining ourselves due to fear and iron morals. Maybe we’d be able to simply disagree with people respectfully in debates or sensitive issues instead of hating on them or being aggressive towards them. Maybe we’d have more religious people who became atheists, but who still value faith. Maybe we’d have more socialists who became conservatives but who still hold respect and understanding for why once upon a time, it was valuable for the state to control the industry. Maybe we’d have more Cartesians who turned into Sartreans, but who still value Descartes’ understanding of freedom.
Let me continue in my crassness and even say: I think it is part of our purpose to be good teachers in this life. I don’t see the value in saying “It’s not my job to educate you”. A good teacher of life understands that once, he too struggled - so don’t shout, get upset or become aggressive towards someone with a different view and education. Everyone in this world has suffered and is suffering, so perpetuating the new wave of pop-culture rooted in hostility, entitlement, aggressiveness and hate, means denying YOURSELF the truth that you once were also in disagreement with yourself.
THERE IS AN INDIVIDUALIZING MOMENt in realizing your own mortality...WAIT NVM. CHANGED MY MIND HEIDDEGeR.
As cheesy as this may come off of your monitors, the characteristic of changing our minds & love should be streamed on mass media daily. We need to start raising our consciousnesses and self-awareness in understating that changing our minds is a valuable trait to have because it promotes understanding and evolving. And love needs to be given to those who were once in your shoes of unawareness, and help raise their own consciousness. I think it’s time we started to collectively raise our emotional intelligence rather than only focus on our cognitive one.
I just changed my mi—
I've worn many different faces, ideas, eyes, legs, arms, heads, morals, faiths, fears, passions, existential dilemmas, clothes, selves —
Now they're all dead on the floor.