Photography, Concept & Editing by Alexandra Roman (that's me)
This is actually quite a difficult question for me to answer. I guess it has to be a The Weeknd song, since he is my favourite artist. If I were to pick, I’d probably choose either “All I Know” or “True Colours” because of the way these songs highlight a lot of emotional depth and maturity of understanding your own emotions and essentially, your own self. I am generally a very reflective person, so listening to someone sing about how they see love and emotions both about themselves and about the other person really resonates with me. Especially in the case of “True Colours” he highlights the importance of trust and complete transparency within a newly born relationship, which I believe is key.
HOW FAST DO YOU FALL IN LOVE?
Hahaha, nice one. Well, my answer is: very fast (or at least, I know others would say that about me for sure). I don’t like wasting time, and if I choose to be in a relationship with you, then expect me to be all in. I believe in the idea that true connection between two people can only happen if you reveal yourself from the very beginning and don’t waste your time playing games, trying to seem ‘interesting’ or ‘cool.’ That’s not the point of a relationship, let alone love.
HAVE YOU EVER FELT BETRAYED?
Yes, I believe I have felt betrayed a couple of times in my life, either by my friends or by my lovers. I am generally the type who does not need promises to believe people. Although I have had my moments when I was unable to trust a person (and that’s my bad), I usually tend to have faith in whatever someone says, until proven otherwise. So, the thing that makes me feel betrayed the most is when someone says something, and then does the opposite. Like, why bother telling me stuff that you think I want to hear? I’d always rather know the ugly truth, than be fed beautifully elaborated lies by people who essentially either don’t know what they want, or even worse, know that they want to play you or deceive you.
WHAT MADE YOU FEEL BETRAYED RECENTLY?
I guess there are two things that come to mind. Although I did not realise it at first, I felt quite betrayed in my last two relationships because in both cases, my partners showed a lot of inconsistency in the end. For example, they said they loved me and within the same week broke up with me — even within a couple of days after telling me those very precious words (or at least, they are to me). I know it’s ok to change your mind, but that action made me think that it was all a lie. A second thing has to do with friends, as I have recently come to the realisation that someone very close to me purposefully went and told a secret of mine. It is not just that they broke my trust, but also the fact that they essentially took away from me the choice of keeping it a secret from someone or telling the truth to the person who it was related to.
WHAT IMPRESSED YOU RECENTLY?
There are two people that have recently impressed me a lot. One of them is probably the strongest person that I know, and I have seen her deeply hurt in the past few months. I know this doesn’t sound positive, but I think it is. I felt so proud of her for eventually accepting the pain, embracing it, admitting it, and then finally letting it go. She is an amazing person that has so much to offer, and the fact that she let herself go through all of that impressed me a lot. Not many people are brave enough to face pain and disappointment. The other person is also someone very dear to me. He was faced with the choice of either getting something that he wanted for a really long time or something completely new and uncertain, and he chose the latter. I think that also shows a lot of bravery, but it also shows an understanding of when it is time to let go of the old in order to make space for the new.
WHAT'S YOUR OPINION ON OUR GENERATION?
Honestly, we’re a bunch of beautifully fucked up people. Everyone is so scared to show their real side, to show their truest, rawest emotions because they think it is wrong to be vulnerable. That it would be a sign of being weak. However, I think that’s the bravest thing one can do. So what if you were lied to, betrayed, hurt, cheated, disappointed, etc? People need to understand that everyone went through that at some point in their lives, and that’s perfectly ok. Accept, acknowledge and admit your pain, just as you do with your happiness. This is essentially related to the idea of keeping up an appearance. So many people seem so obsessed to be like that model, or that singer, or that ‘X’ person, that they simply forget that they actually have something to offer than no one else has. And, in the end, I get to see Instagram pages filled with photos of people who look or act exactly the same. My question for you is: what’s the point in all of this?
DO YOU WANT TO BE AN INFLUENCER?
Continuing with what I said for the previous question, I’d say I wouldn’t want to be an influencer, but I guess we all can be to some extent. I would definitely not want to be the type of person people would want to copy the style of, simply because I do not think that’s the point. I notice so many of those so-called influencers that just keep on copying each other, so in the end, you are left with the same idea represented by multiple people. That’s boring and useless. Bring something new, try to constantly reinvent yourself! I think everyone has something unique to offer (so cliche, I know, sorry about that), and everyone could have the potential to be some sort of role model in some aspect of life.