L U C Y
"I DON'T KNOW IF I WANT TO BE ACCEPTED"
WHAT'S YOUR IDEAL WORLD?
My ideal world is a balanced world. One where where we live with nature instead of next to it and we understand how our actions impact the world around us.
DO YOU THINK THERE'S A DIFFERENCE BETWEEN FALLING IN LOVE VS BEING IN LOVE?
Falling in love is a process. It involves learning new things about the other person and growing more and more attached because of them. It is sensational and emotional and frenzied and can create a fantasy in place of a person. Being in love, however, is more of a state of mind. It requires constant work and an acceptance of the other person regardless of their faults. This is when any fantasies established while falling in love can crumble and if what is left in their place is not enough, falling in love can end in end on the ground. Especially if they refuse to accept the reality after the illusion has shattered.
DO YOU FEEL ACCEPTED AT OBERLIN?
I don’t know if I want to be accepted at Oberlin. While I have made some incredible friends here and had some great experiences, I’ve also found that Oberlin is a really toxic environment if you don’t fit its exact mold. For all its progressive reputation, Oberlin can be very narrow minded to those who don’t agree with them and they don’t often handle these differences in opinion well; I myself have found myself falling into this pitfall. For example, Oberlin has a very call-out culture that prevents people from becoming less ignorant because once they make a mistake, it is very difficult to change the way they’re perceived — especially at a school as small as Oberlin.
WHAT'S YOUR OPINION ON GENDER?
I believe that gender is a spectrum and can be completely fluid. If it makes someone more comfortable with themselves, why does anyone have any right to try and take that away from them?
ARE YOU CLOSE TO YOUR PARENTS?
My parents are honestly the best and such huge role models for me. I am an only child so growing up they were the constants in my life. They’ve managed to grow with me, allowing me the space to develop into my own person while still being accessible and supportive if I need advice or comfort. We have a great deal of mutual respect for each other which allows us to talk candidly about many things, including sexuality and political issues. I’m able to talk to my mom about anything and I rely on both her and my dad to help me make difficult decisions.
HAVE YOU EVER FELT MISTREATED?
I think of myself as a very empathetic and caring person and while this is beneficial, it has been taken advantage of by friends and significant others alike so much so that I am much more aware of putting more effort into relationships than I’m getting out of. When this happens, I tend to just shut down and get into the mindset of “Well if they aren’t going to put in the effort why should I?” which can be detrimental if I am still invested in the relationship.
WHY ARE YOU STUDYING YOUR MAJOR?
I have been interested in Biology from a very young age; my parents got me the Encyclopedia of Animals when I was about four years old, and I had many animal-related books growing up. I decided to pursue Conservation Biology in particular after traveling to Costa Rica with National Geographic Student Expeditions the summer before my senior year in high school. It was a life-changing experience that solidified my desire to protect at-risk ecosystems. I decided to major in Biology instead of Environmental Studies because Biology provides a much broader base that way if Conservation Biology does not pan out the way I’m anticipating, I have a Biology undergrad degree to fall back on.